I second FireHawk's suggestion to have her ask a mechanic to help her get a decent used car "that runs well, & shouldn't crumble to rust in 2 years. It can look like s4, but it needs to be mechanicly sound."
The money she saves doing that will more than easily allow her to start her own Car Insurance, even if it's the lowest, most bare bones policy possible.
The main point is that it will be *In Her Name* and not under MIL's control.
Also, *HUGS* on your idea to send MIL photos as punishment.
She doesn't deserve to be a part of (You+SWMBO)'s family, and certainly not to have the capacity to corrupt the kids.
As a further way to make sure she can't find out where you are, when you print out the digital pictures, digitally erase the backgrounds & any obvious identifying logos.
For Example, if $Wife+Kidlet are standing in front of a lakefront cabin at "Lake Winnimukka", erase the sign so it can't be read.
MIL gets the idea that you're having fun, as well as the very real "And you're not invited".
Then, when you go to send the photos to her, make it a two-step journey.
Put them in the envelope addressed to MIL with an obviously faked return address.
(The US Postal System refuses to mail anything without a Return Address, but doesn't check to make sure it's a *valid* one.
If yours is the same way, then including a fake Return Address ensures they deliver it.)
Once sealed in that envelope, DO NOT STAMP IT.
Instead, slip that envelope inside a second, and send that to a friend in another part of the world.
Include money to pay them to purchase the needed stamps to do the final mailing of the internal envelope.
This ensures that the Canceled Stamp isn't anywhere near your actual location, coupled with the fake Return Address means she'll never have *any* chance in hell of tracking it back.
This is a routine frequently used by Woman's Shelters to send things back to the abusive spouse.
For example, if the woman leaving the abusive relationship had to take the car to leave, but the car is in both their names, it will be difficult (if not impossible) for her to register it elsewhere & not have hubby find her through those DMV records.
So the Woman's Group slaps the keys & parking stub of $AirportLongTermParkingLot into an envelope addressed to hubby with a fake Return Address.
Sticks that envelope inside another, sends the second to a cohort in another part of the country, whom then sends the first envelope to the hubby.
Hubby sees $Location2's canceled stamp, the fake Return Address, and has no hope of tracing it back to $Location1, much less where-ever Wife might be.
And having someone follow her to an airport in a neighboring city, drop off the car, & drive Wife back to the Support Group $Location for eventual moving to $OtherLocation is a snap.
By the time Hubby gets the envelope with the keys & Parking Stub, there's a nice bill ready for him, & Wife may not even be in the same *Time Zone* anymore.
This same routine is great for making sure MIL can't find you, wife, or kids.
And all it takes is a cohort willing to mail a letter once it arrives.
*HUGS* |
