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Well, that explains alot... (Mods PLZ read) | by tonyz | 2010-05-12 10:31:52 |
| A diagnosis doesn't change you. |
by Anonymous Freak |
2010-05-12 13:00:53 |
(Assuming you found this out yesterday.)
You're still the exact same person you were two days ago. You have the exact same personality quirks, for good or ill, as two days ago. People are just as willing (or unwilling,) to listen to you today as two days ago. (And the choice of willing or unwilling is largely based on the OTHER person's personality, not on yours.)
You didn't receive a diagnosis that, by the mere fact that you have learned of your condition, should alter your manner of living your life. You didn't just learn that you only have six months to live. You didn't just learn that you have a condition that will render you blind in two years. You didn't just learn that you have a disease that is so communicable that you should be physically removed from the presence of others.
You have a personality quirk. One whose name has a *LOT* of baggage, most of it undeserved. If they had told you that you have Slartibartfast Syndrome, would you have the same reaction?
Don't let a name rule your life. You are you. Asperger's is a name. Just like "Type O Blood". It is a descriptor of something you can't change, that you have already figured out how to deal with, even if you didn't know the name. (Type O means that if you need a transfusion of blood, it *HAS* to be Type O, a rather significant limitation!)
Just be yourself. Don't try to be something you're not for other people's sake. If you truly care about your wife, then share your feelings with her, don't shut her off. She wouldn't have chosen to be with you if she didn't care about you. Let her help. If it turns out that "the real you" is someone she doesn't want to be with, you'll find out. But don't force her away under the probably false assumption that you KNOW that she doesn't want to be with you. (This is something my wife has done to her son, pushing him away because she THINKS he doesn't care, when I know he does.) |
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