There need to be very clear guidelines and boundaries, and both people involved must be *very* emotionally secure, non-jealous, completely honest and open with each-other, and both 100% OK with the idea (neither just going along with it because it's what the other wants).
The vast majority of couples can not handle this. You do not sound like you're very happy about the idea, and your relationship does not sound like it is at a very stable point right now (since you're seriously considering divorce!)... those are definitely indicators that you two SHOULD NOT go the open marriage route, it's only going to make existing problems worse.
...he did at least ask, instead of just going out and sleeping around without telling you, so there's a bit of a sign of hope there... if you tell him "no" and he respects your decision, you two may be able to work things out. If he just suggested the idea and was willing to drop it when you made it clear you didn't like the idea, you guys may still have a future together. If after you've made it clear you don't like the idea he keeps pressuring you and won't drop it, that's disrespectful and inconsiderate of you and your feelings, and your relationship is in trouble... |
