I don't know how you tolerate this. I think a strike is in order. Maybe your father will start feeling a little better about himself if he'd actually accomplish something (even something like laundry or dishes) during the day.
I don't know how you have kept your sanity. I would have had at least one episode of "no wonder mom split on you" nastyness for him not pulling his own weight. Your dad isn't in his 90's and still has his faculties, right? (that's the only time I'd cut people slack like that - if they are really elderly and simply CAN'T do this stuff anymore).
I'm supporting everyone in the house, because VoxSpouse's work has really fallen off (and it was never great to begin with), and I've BEEN supporting this household since Voxkid was 18 months old, and the other people living there had darn well pull their weight with chores. Or I become insufferable and impossible to live with.
I think you should sit down with the other adults and come up with a communal (daily) chore list, and assign chores. It's only going to get worse once the baby comes. And the chores could get rotated on a regular basis.
Just out of curiosity, are you also responsible for the paperwork, finances and billpaying? (I do that, too, and I loathe it, but if I don't do it, it doesn't get done. The best I've been able to do is get Voxspouse to sit with me, looking contrite, while I pay the bills. Maybe he'll open envelopes and file papers if I hover over him.) |
