...is her. Regardless of whether this is a very frequent occurrence, whenever she does the "shush c.b, explain her away, then patronize her" routine, she's trying to make you less than you are.
You don't need the kind of "protecting" she's trying to give you, and you certainly don't need the stress and anger of being shushed like a 9-year-old. A good climb-up-her-a3 next time she does it, in public, might cure her for a while, especially if you prove it was a bad idea by getting exactly what you want from the bank (or whoever it is at the time). |