Yes, the loneliness is there, and it's real. But, by one of those weird-azz paradoxes of human nature, you can't make the loneliness go away by focusing on it. All that does is cause the loneliness to fill your horizons. Which makes you moody, and blue, and not a lot of fun to be around--all of which reinforces that very same loneliness.
Focus on the good in your life. Focus on the happy moments. Focus on your achievements. Doing so attracts more of the same into your life, and attracts the people who will have the most impact on reducing that loneliness you feel.
Don't go expecting miracles; this change in focus and these changes in your life don't happen overnight. But they won't happen at all if you keep your focus and efforts on non-productive matters.
Sheesh, Rogue! Take a look at the COTD a couple weeks back, when you were the named complimentee. Do you have any idea how many people around the entire globe admire your strength and your ability to focus on the right priorities?
Loneliness comes and goes, and you know this. Stop looking at something so fleeting and giving it the control of your happiness; tkae that control for yourself! You're more than capable of doing so. Get out there and live! Somewhere along the line, you'll bump into someone who will help dispel that loneliness. Sure, he's not likely to be everything you want. But, I'll guarantee he's got a few surprises--pleasing surprises--you never even thought of; people are like that.
If you need to go have a good cry, then go have a good cry. Hide out in the bathroom, if you don't want to be bothered in the midst of it. But, after you've had your cathartic releases, then get rid of this defeatist thinking you're indulging in, and go live! Stop being an Eyore, and go be a Tigger for a while, or even a Pooh. You know it works.
That's the way to fight loneliness. |
