If I'm friends with both of them, then I'm going to continue to be friends with both of them.
Sometimes life draws us in different directions, and friends drift away. The couple I'm thinking of, they used to host a monthly get-together, which was my main point of contact with both of them, and the husband, who kept the house, also kept hosting, except for several months he was out of town or otherwise couldn't do it, and now everyone's out of the habit. There have been scheduling snafus for the last couple. I haven't seen much of him in a while, but I'll be happy to see him when we finally do get together.
The wife remarried and has a little one, and she's called me up regularly, invites me over, asked me to the baby's first birthday party, etc. She's made more of an effort, and I find myself making more of an effort in return. She lives almost an hour away (but then, the old place was equally far), so I don't get to visit as often as I'd like, but it still happens.
Try to chat with them when you're both online, and if they don't respond for a while, keep offering every now and then. Either it's deliberate, and maybe they'll get over it, or it's all a big coincidence. Either way, it's worth making the effort. |
