Do you have a "family of choice" then? Or are you just a loner?
I had my issues with my mother when I was 15, and couldn't wait to get out of her house. It took till I was a parent myself to finally understand her enough to make a decent relationship with her, and we had everything settled by the time she passed. But I also grew up in what is basically a loving household with no physical abuse, and nobody had drug/booze problems, and my parents were married for 45 years. I know that's not typical now.
And I don't know her mother - maybe she's a lousy mom. But even lousy moms are missed by their children once they die. Epecially if there are issues that haven't been resolved, because now they can never be resolved. (There are ways to work around that, of course, but they're not as effective as doing it in person) |
