I know that sounds harsh, but it's advice, not a criticism of you or what you're going through.
Don't care. About when they say that. Don't lay down and get steamrolled by the seeming relentless monotony of it. The philosophy you have to take is simple... "Okay. Next?" And you keep going until the law of averages takes over.
Now, don't just take it on the chin next time and be like, "thank you miss, may I have another?" Next time that comes up, next time that gets said to you, press the subject. Joke with it a bit. Insist you're full of surprises, something like that, just keep her talking--don't be a schmuck, just keep her talking. Then, at that point, really sharpen the eyes and tune in the ears. That's when you'll get clues as to what particular nice-guy-ness trait is a turnoff. Even if it's too late to change it with her, it's something you can keep in mind or work on before, "okay. Next?" No drastic changes, no "okay, I'm going to be an a7, because girls date a7's", just build yourself a roadmap for changing bit by bit, to whatever extent you're comfortable with, to whatever extent you're still "being yourself"--which is the only thing you can be.
It worked for me. |
