I'm a tad younger than you are and a tad older than your daughter is. I might know a bit about it, though, since I'm old enough to know what responsibilities mean and young enough to know how it feels to been told what your #1 priority is.
When I was forced to do school (we're talking university here, "highschool" (Dutch middle school) went fine without the need for force) I did nothing. When they left me alone I did what I deemed important, which was classes sometimes (but not nearly enough).
Now, I have seen my share of daughters in puberty (three of my sisters younger than me, two of my sisters in law younger than me, a lot of classmates), so I know what it's like: impossible to get through (allthough being a Mom has her pros). But if you cancel her birthday... That might enstrange her from you big time. I can't tell you what to do exactly, but I got this feeling that this is not going to get you or your kid anywhere.
Come to think of it, she might be young enough to make this work. But be careful: only a few years later she won't give a d4. She will just decide to mock you more.
My advice: make her understand (without forcing it) that school is mighty important. Examples might help, and I'm one... ( :-( / :-) ). Then make her wonder what is the best thing to do and what might feel the most rewarding once done. |
