| someone who would be a PARTNER - someone to talk to, who can put sentences together in an intelligent fashion, who can say more than "beer me!" or "what's for dinner" or "Let's f4"
And if the guy is really REALLY hot, the woman is going to be constantly worried that she's not "attractive enough" for him - and there's a real good possibility that he's going to be constantly on the lookout for "something better"
I don't know how long ago your relationship ended, but I've found it takes at least 3 months of grieving before being in a place where you can consider taking the relationship risk again.
And I know the consensus around here is that I'm in the prettier half of the "beauty spectrum" - but I spent my entire childhood, adolescence and early adulthood convinced that I was an ugly skank. Image perceptions seem to have very little to do with objective reality and are completely based on the opinions of others - usually the ones we find attractive but the opinions are not reciprocated. My sister-in-law sees photos of me as a teenager and swears that if I lived in Manhattan in that time, I'd have been scooped up as a model. She does not believe that I was completely dateless until senior year (and I was dating someone who was brilliantly intelligent and not terribly physically attractive or even able to support himself very well). In school people used to make up SONGS about how ugly I was. | 
