Low self esteem, and the inherent "why would anyone want to talk to me?" syndrome.
Then I realized that other people said and did many of the same things I did, and got away with them. It's all context and presentation. Let's take that list you just gave:
"That was great up there. You could have timed that one line a little different but that's my only problem with your performance."
Alternate wording is all you need here. "...I would have used different timing on that one line, but that's just me." This also opens you up to a conversation on interpretation of the role. And, Boom, you're talking to someone, no pressure.
"Wow! You don't know how much I wish you weren't (dating my friend/married) so I could ask you out sometime."
Again, alternate wording works. "Man, if $other ever breaks up with you, I want to know first. I'll ask you out so fast..." This is also a good place to put your "I'm so in lust with you" line. With a shy grin.
"You look great, 'cept for that whole too-much-makeup thing"
All you need here is a simple edit, after the word "great".
"Slept late, huh?"
Add a "Just kidding!" and a playful grin, and you can get away with this one.
"D4, but you look hot in that (skirt/shirt/dress/etc.). You should wear stuff like that more often."
Substitute that word "great/lovely/terrific" for "hot" and you're okay with this one.
"So, uh... what're you doin, like, after rehearsal/class/(insert here)?
Continues with: "I'd love to take you out for a coffee/tea/ice cream/, if you're free." Always have a destination in mind. Or two, in case she vetos the first.
"I am so in lust with you..."
This can work really well, but only if used on someone you already know. Try it in a casual, silly moment, said in an off-hand way.
"Hi, I'm Sean."
This is your best line! You'd be amazed where a shy intro might get you!
....and several other things that my self-censor won't even let me put on screen.
Sounds to me like your self-censor is set too high.
I quote the infamous Xander Harris from Buffy the Vampire Slayer--
"Sometimes I shouldn't say...words."
The key word here is: sometimes. Don't ever be afraid to speak, just be careful how you say what you say. |
