Especially staying away from "you" and absolute words ("always," "never"), etc. Try to bring the conversation back to "I" statements: "I feel," "I experience," etc. You mentioned that your sisters have anxiety attacks too, and it may help to remind her that this is just something that you have to deal with, but would appreciate some accommodation while you do.
It will help if you have a very clear idea of what you want to change. Are you just telling her for the sake of telling her, or are you telling her because you want to establish some ground rules for when you feel safe doing certain things? |
