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If I may ask, how old are you, and do you live with your mom?
Have you done any work on yourself to determine the source for the anxiety attacks? (Maybe they are your mom's "fault").
It sounds to me that you are tired of listening to your mother's advice about various lifestyle choices, and you want her to stop.
Predicting in advance how another person will react to something that you say pretty much guarantees that reaction, because that is the reaction you will be looking for instead of actually listening to what the other person is saying.
To avoid "Blame statements", stay away from the word "you". If you open the dialog with a statement such as "Mom, I've been experiencing some issues/problems for a while now, and I haven't felt comfortable telling anyone about them. Can I talk to you about this at this time, or would you rather wait for another conversation?"
You have to say it in a neutral voice, and respect her response -- if it's "Oh, honey, I've got a lot on my mind right now, can it wait until later?" you need to make an "appointment" with her to have the conversation. (My guess is it's going to be something like: "Oh, dear! What's the matter?") | 
