| "He probably sees you and the children as his safety net."
What man wouldn't enjoy having a wife that won't leave and be able to keep a girlfriend on the side?
Guys don't have the ka-honies to break it off...Just because he won't leave doesn't mean he actually cares....
I'll shut up. I was in your shoes w/ my second hubby, spent 9 yrs asking myself the same questions you are now. Everyone kept telling me to stay gone, and I would never listen, or I would leave and go back.
Trust me, get out of it, or learn to deal with it, without driving everyone around you nuts. Your not helping yourself trying to find out why...and it's not worth your time....anyone who would act like that is NOT EVER going to cough up the truth.
It's your call. People here will support you, no matter what you choose, but stop being stunned and get off your bootie and DO SOMETHING!
FYI - I found out that mine was emailing w/ his ex-GF, on weekends while I was out doing basketball tournaments. The day I had the SAME PROOF that you have RIGHT NOW, I went to the IS meeting, verge of tears, made it thru, called the kids, told em to get to packing, took the rest of the day off, called and got an apartment within an hr, got 4 loads of stuff in the apartment all before he got off work.
You can make excuses, reasons of when is a good time, the good time is when you are fed up for good. Then, the rest of that crap doesn't matter....(aka bills, etc).
I've been out ever since and do not regret anything, except that I didn't get the guts to do that 8 years earlier. | 
