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| Love hurts |
by raptillicus |
2005-05-17 17:47:35 |
This is something I wrote for an english class on day in a rather sarcastic mood.
The generic "they" once said " 'tis better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all." This sentiment seems to place a rather high price on love, placing its benefits well above any pain or harm it might cause. Certainly no one who is in love will deny that that they are happy, perhaps happier then they have ever been. Yet not everything that makes one happy is good for them. Aherion rush makes an addict very happy indeed, yet no one would deny that herion is not a healthy habit. Certainly love can produce a rush, but to compare it to a life threatening narcotic is perhaps a bit harsh; after all, no one has ever died from a love injection. Still, love can be addictive. Perhaps it is better never to have loved at all.
Love has undeniable advantages, especially when assuming that love is reciprocated. Love can be a comfort when one is in pain or fear. It can be a motivation for improving oneself greater then any other: the fear of not being good enough for somone so loved is truly a terrifying thought. Love can be a bond that brings trust and companionship that lasts decades or more. An emotional connection of such power can stabalize somone when life seems to be spiraling out of control, or it could pull them to greater achievments. Joy, pleasure, and happiness are certainly by-products of love, inspiring people throughout history to say things with the general sintiment of "you make the happiest person alive." Love certainly seems to be bliss.
Yet there are other effects of love. An otherwise rational person can become erattic and illogical when so smitten. A person in love can be so taken that they begin tolose focus of the other important things in their life. Distraction at a job or even crossing the street can lead to disaster, or in some cases, fatalities. Love required sacrifice, lifestyle changes, sometimes ever a total revamping of one's life. One is restricted on teh activites, foods, music, and movies one can partake of. Love requires time and effort, and often money, to thrive. Love can even hold people from advancement or success, simply by its being there. People pass up promotions, job offers, education, travel, money, even other love, in the name of love.
Even if someone decided that such a losses and restrictions were worth it, they must still face that fact that not all love is returned. A love scorned or lost or broken can lead to such pain or anger or depression that a person ceases to function normally, or sometimes even at all. Certainly finding out that a love is not returned is a harsh blow at best. A messy divorce or breakup has led to people killing their former loves. The thousands who died in the Trojan wars died, if myth has not decieved us, from anger spawned from love. As in Shakespear's Romeo and Juliet, death does not even have to come from loss or anger, but can come from love itself. Even if love has endured, the loss of a loved one, even through old age and peaceful death can be devestating, leaving those left with no desire to live.
Whether love is returned or not, not all love is healthy. Love is often confused with lust or envy, leading to disaster when that love fades. Often we give our hearts to people who do not want or deserve them. People often profess heartfelt love and adoration to an abusive or neglectful companion, leading them to years or decades of misery. Men who find their love not returned have become violent or abusive, stalking or even raping or killing the object of their affections, occasionally even killing themselves in a fit of self pity or anger.
Without love, the human race would probable have died off long ago. Yet a rational, objective view seems to show a definite inclination toward the disadvantages. Surely there must be easier, less dangerous ways to find happiness and fulfilment, yet most people search for love even harder then they do for money. It would seem that it is not better to have loved and lost. Yet for all that the evidence indicates love is dangerous and erratic at best, people still want it. Perhaps humanity is hardwired this way. Perhaps it is a survival instinct. Either way, the sappy romance liturature that has sold so well will probably continue to do so for millenia to come.
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Only when done properly :) (n/t) | by radiowave911 | 2005-05-17 18:26:16 |
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