HOWEVER >>>>>>>>>
I would also say, enjoy her company on a VERY professional level.
There can be good aspects to a little inuendo or male/female flirtation
even if nothing more ever develops than some playfullness back & forth.
while I have to say that a woman who is older than you CAN still be attractive,
and may have lost little of her sentuality in the ages from 25 to 45...
TREAD LIGHTLY if considering anything in the romance department!!
My thoughts are:
- don't mistake a good comfort level, and playfullness
for something more, if it wasn't intended.
- for now- just enjoy a pleasant working companion
that you can get to know as a good friend, without adding more.
- If you decide that you are both mutually interested,
then definitely let her make the first move.
probably let her make the first THREE, until it's clear enough to discuss
- I might suggest some shared lunch breaks together, just to
see where the conversations lead, but don't push it.
- Remember that you both want to be comfortable working
there with each other, which ever direction a relationship goes.
- Talk. Having easy open conversation that can wander through most ANY
topic is the best way to learn about each other, and also to
ensure that you are both thinking about the same things.
- Talk about everything under the sun, likes, gripes, laughs, dreams, dinner,
friends, growing up, pets, dancing, books, news, whatever...
- Keep a bit of "mental seperation" between the personal aspects and
any personal/private aspects that may develop.
- If things go further, be aware that she may have a very different pace
or boundaries than you do. She may be ready to kiss, but not make out,
or do things on 'neutral territory' but not either home, or be happy with
flirtation and a kiss- but never more; or maybe much more, but other considerations.
- Be honest, always. Better clearly understood than tensions later.
- Hey, you should be flattered in a way. Lady-Geeks are a rare thing
and often defensive of guys from the start. If the two of you are
getting comfortable around each other - then to some extent, she trusts you
enough to be closer... however far that goes. Enjoy whatever aspects
may develop, without asumptions that may cause a defensive response.
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