These are gift ideas more than message suggestions.
Unless she's too ill to participate in anything, give her something thrillsome and reckless that she can enjoy once before she dies.
I also like the chocolates idea-- that's pretty cool, but give her really high quality ones, cause there's no point in dying with cheap chocolate. and maybe a feather boa, so she can lounge around like a starlet, eating chocolates, drinking champagne, and bemoaning the decline of her fantastic career.
If she has a sense of humor, go with Control's idea, only give her a gold watch and make the note sound more like a retirement party.
You could sing the "Happy Birthday" version with worms and stuff eating the flesh (I don't know the words, but I'm sure someone here does).
Another thought is that she sounds like she's depressed. While I know it's really hard to get your minds and hearts around what's happening with her cancer, maybe it would be easier to just work with "she's depressed" and think of something appropriate in that direction. What would you give a depressed friend for their birthday? Something meaningful? Something self-affirming? A life experience? A ski trip? A day out of the house? |
