well documented subject. It is a behavior (usually) learned at a very young age, like about when they first learn to talk, so you can't say they're to blame for that. But...as adults, they are responsible for they're behaviors. Sadly, they do have the potential to be warm and caring -- and they really don't set out to do anyone harm. But the rage cycle continues to turn until they blow up, and then someone gets hurt. We have a neighbor who's this way. His "mean time between girlfriends" is now about 8 months. He's been away now for about a month -- we think maybe he's doing time for battery.
A word of warning regarding this behavior pattern: it doesn't just spontaneously "get better." This is a cyclical and degenerative pattern. Left untreated, these people frequently end up killing someone. This behavior pattern can be corrected -- the man must first be able to see the pattern, and then want to do something about it. As usual, no one else can do it for him, and he cannot do it for anyone else. |
