I'll try to talk to E. Or maybe I will write her an e-mail, because I might lose my calm if I talk to her and she starts accusing me of close-mindedness (as she accused N's doctor when she said plainly that the food supplement is not medically tested).

As for my mom, saying that my family is dysfunctional was not a joke. For generations, people in this family have been deceiving each other "for their own good". She kept my grandmother's cancer a secret from... my grandmother. It's always been "don't tell your sister, but I just told your other sister that your father is...". I think she'll take the secrecy as quite natural, even if I find it hard to live with.

Me, I haven't seen anybody for this. Hey, that's what UFies are for, right? ;-)

Seriously, I don't trust therapists. I know my mom does, and that she has one at the moment, so that's why I told her to see her. This immediately transfers the trouble to someone else's shoulders. Me, I don't trust people who have a vested interest in seeing me continue therapy indefinitely. And psychotherapy has such weak theories behind it, that the only thing I am willing to say for therapists is that like all people, some of them are good listeners, and can offer sensible advice.

I'm surprised about what you say about sudden deaths. I always thought that people who have had time to confront the illness accept death much more easily, and sometimes - though it's not nice to say so - it comes as a relief to them. Whereas sudden deaths are, well, shocking.

Anyway, thanks for the nice thoughts and compliments. {{{ag_wyvern}}}