| Mom never went anywhere; hospice came to her, and provided up to 20 hours of nursing and other care per week, plus "comfort meds" (for pain, etc), walkers, disposable items, and installed a hospital bed when it became necessary.
Mom also decided not to continue with the chemo, because it was ruining her quality of life (all she could do was "sit" and watch TV, read or do x-word puzzles, which wasn't enough for her).
They don't ususally put you into the hospice facility unless the patient needs to be on a 24/7 morphine drip for pain management, or will be passing within about 7 days.
And I've known people with terminal diagnoses who have lived for a long time (like years). True, most of these stories are rare and apocryphal, but it does happen.
If N is good at visualization, there are some very good guided meditiations/visualizations that have helped others. They involve visualizing the immune system actually fighting and killing the cancer cells. It's described well in "Changing Belief Systems with NLP" by Robert Dilts, Meta Publications, 1990. ISBN 0-916990-24-9.
Unfortunately, my mom was not a believer of "mind over matter" -- she was a very pragmatic woman, so I wasn't able to work with her using these techniques. All I could do was drive food down to her (she lived 5 hours away from me), and help her in her final weeks. |
