And not every child behaves the same.
I would like to see a reference to a study showing that shyness is learned because I've seen at least a couple cases where the child was always shy. My cousin's son is an example (I've known him since a couple days after he was born, too early to have learned to be shy). He's fine interacting with the family and people he knows, but he has always been quiet around strangers (yes, even children).
And although I don't remember my life when I was 2, my family has told me that I was always quiet and shy. For me the learned behavior is to not act shy. It takes work, as my natural state is withdrawn. There was no trama, as far back as my brain goes that's the way I've been. Perhaps that makes me biased on this topic, but it also is a voice from experience.
Most of the time, I'm perfectly happy with the way I am. Being shy != unhappy. Sure there are occasions I wish I wasn't shy, but I know gregarious people who have told me that there are times they wish they hadn't been as outgoing. |
