IMO (& I could be wrong) either one of the following is true:
1) she is (and has been) trying to break it off with you, and your persistence is just making it harder for her to avoid the "get out of a relationship guilt-free" card she's trying to play; OR
2) she really _does_ want time to sort things out, and your persistence is interfering with that.
Now, if it's #1, you've got nothing to lose by being persistent - short of getting arrested for harrassment. (And watch out for that.) Either she eventually leaves you or she decides to keep you. Either way, problem solved.
However, if it's #2, things are tougher. The interruptions could sway her either way.
The reason you're not really an "idiot" is that you can't possibly know which situation is the real one. But you _might_ be making things worse, in the case of #2.
In my experience, though, #1 is the more common occurrence. I suspect that your actions can only help you at this point - but tone it down.
If you start thinking that you can move on and be happy, then you'll become more confident (something that you obviously aren't, right now). Then you can either find someone else or she might respond to that sudden confidence favorably.
And that's my 2 cents. I'll probably need change... |
