| my conscience won't allow me to sit quietly while you trash your grandma on here. If I could, I'd happily adopt Grandma from you! 95 is very old, and her body and (possibly her mind) are not what they used to be. You should be proud of her for managing to stay alive so long (most people don't)!! You should also be thankful for her because longevity is influenced by genetics. Enjoy having her around, for the short time with her you still have left. She will be dead soon, and then you'll have to live with your conscience for being unkind/unforgiving toward her when she was helpless, so make up with her, as soon as you can before you lose the chance! All of my Grandparents are gone, now, and I'd be most grateful to have them back. People who have lived so long have seen things and survived hardships you have not, and they hold a wealth of information that our society wrongly seems to have forgotten to value on our quest to "boldly go" into the future and make more technological progress. Yes, I'm sure you're frustrated (but probably not as frustrated as she is) that her body is worn out and failing, and that is understandable; I would be frustrated, too, but you can't realistically blame her for it--she does not deserve blame, since the things we now know about the causes of her health problems, where unknown when she was doing the things that set up these problems. Her osteoporosis (weakened bones) is probably due to insufficient calcium and hormonal changes that happen after menopause, and menopause, for her, probably happened about 45 years ago, before we even knew how to prevent osteoporosis (AND our "cures" for osteoporosis are still not perfect--they all have side-effects or increase the risk of cancer). Another thing about osteoporosis is that it starts when there is insufficient calcium in the diet, and the body has to take it from the bones to meet its needs, and calcium requirements increase during pregnancy and lactation, so it's possible that some of her bone loss was during pregnancy and breast feeding of your parent. Osteoporosis link Cataracts can be caused by sun damage to the eye, but we only recently realized this link. Sun Health Link So, pleeeeeeeeease try to forgive Grandma for being frail (and possibly grumpy about being laid up) and try to enjoy what little time you have left with her!</rant> |
