I believe that this is, to a large extent, a type of excuse for people who want to try to convince people like me that they can't help it. I believe that some people are born with an genetic inclination towards homosexuality, but no more than people are born with a genetic inclination towards being an alchoholic or a glutton.
there's a difference here, though, between inclination to be alcoholic and inclination to be homosexual. when you are homosexual, and i mean totally gay, not bi--your attempts at meaningful intimate relations with members of the opposite sex DO NOT WORK. that's not to say you can't FAKE IT very well, but what you end up with, at best, is a friendship. at worst you end up with resentment on both sides and a bitter end. me, personally, and a few people who i know well enough to discuss this sort of thing with, all tried. we were engaged or married to men in relationships that looked good from the outside. and we all ended up repulsed and nauseated by trying to fulfill our "wifely duties" sexually speaking. is it natural for the very idea of sex with your partner to make you want to hurl?
yes, everyone is inclined to sin, but does that sin make you happy? alcoholism ruins your life and your family. gluttony ruins your health. both of those are examples of taking one of God's blessings and over-using it, taking it to an extreme, and letting that excess wreck your life. in the short term it will satisfy your lust/temptation/craving. in the long term, it leaves you devastated. homosexuality is just another way of having a family. it's another way of building a lasting, loving relationship with someone else. it's not a perversion of the "purpose" of sex, any more than having sex 'just for fun' is a perversion.
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