I'm very sorry to hear of your loss of Mary; it can be devastating to lose such a close friend, and I hope and pray you'll come through this okay.

I posted the cite you asked for, but in light of the day's events and your loss, it all seems such an irrelevant point right now. I've appreciated your communiqués; while we apparently have some differences of opinions, level heads and cool thinking prevailed in our dialog.  Today's tragedies could have been avoided if some others acted as you have.  Such discourse keeps minds clear by forcing participants to validate their statements with hard facts, intelligence, and good sense.  It's how we respectfully keep each other honest and sharp.

Again, I am very sorry to hear of your personal loss and I look forward to when you are again up for interpersonal "sharpening."  I know it may be a while and in the mean time, I wish you comfort, peace, and loved ones to dry your tears.

Condolences,
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(Please forgive any awkward or ambiguous wording, words are not all easy on such a day.)